Did you ever go fishing when you were a little kid? Didn't it seem like you could sit there all day long with wild unwavering anticipation of the next nibble? It seems like those days of infinite patience are long gone in today's age of technology. Most of today's cell phone users have never known what it is like to have all of your friends' and family's numbers memorized or made weekend plans days in advance with no chance of last-minute cancellations or plan changes.
Unless you remain mindful about it, patience and planning are almost by-gone virtues thanks to modern day technology. We can order something off of Amazon and have it to our doorstep in 2 days. We get instant downloads of a book we want to read. We get instant credit reports. The list goes on and on- you name it, it is to us faster than ever at the click of a button.
It's no wonder that when we embark on trying to change something in ourselves that our first instinct is to get frustrated and give up if our change does not happen immediately. This is where it is imperative to understand the need for separation. Instant gratification has its place, I am not saying that it is inherently bad. But when it comes to making a lasting change in your life, you will only sabotage your efforts if you expect instant results, or even results too soon. This is where mindfulness and patience come into play. You have to consider the scope of the change that you want to make or set your goal and make a realistic timeline for your desired outcome. Let's take it back to the fishing metaphor. Scenario 1: If you sit down to fish in a pond stocked with rainbow trout, you can expect pretty immediate gratification of catching a nice fish and you don't need to exercise great strategy or patience. BOOM. Nice fish on the line, didn't have to work much for it, you can go home and show off your prize. Scenario 2: If you sit down to fish in a natural lake (meaning no one has tampered with the natural ecosystem), you can expect that it is going to take a while to catch a fish, and you will most likely have to employ some strategy. After all, the fish aren't just waiting to be caught and may very well be busy feeding on some particularly juicy bugs on the other side of the lake. You can decide to sit on the same dock in the same place and expect the fish to come to you, OR if you want the prize, be willing to experiment with trial and error and a practice a great deal of patience. Eventually, you will catch a fish that you can take home and show off.
This analogy can be applied to so many of today's modern conveniences, but in the end, the outcome is the same - you get the fish, but which scenario will make you feel proudest? Which one did you really have to be patient with and learn from trial and error? The take-away here is so simple, but so profound: The greater the investment of time and energy toward your goal, the greater the pride in your accomplishments.
So if you want that fish, but need help planning your strategy and exercising patience, I'd be happy to accompany you on the way from the first step until you reach your goal.